Why is emotional intelligence essential for kids?
For as long as we can remember, philosophers and psychologists alike have tried to categorize and define human intelligence in clear and certain terms. The complexity of the concept has given rise to many theories, all of which have been questioned and countered time and time again. Modern theories define Intelligent Quotient (IQ) as a unit of measurement for intellectual capacity. But IQ doesn’t properly cover the scope of skills that affect behaviour and awareness. So, in order to get a fuller picture, emotional quotient (EQ) tests have also been added.
What is EQ?
While IQ measures intellectual ability in terms of critical and analytical skills, EQ generally refers to the ability to sense emotion, empathize and cope with feelings and impulses. Human beings have the capacity to experience a wide range of intense emotions. These, on the other hand, can cause us to act irrationally and impulsively, making us feel out of control. Managing these emotions in a healthy and effective manner is a life skill necessary for a smooth-sailing and fulfilling life. This ability to cope with one’s own emotions while empathizing with others’ feelings is known as emotional intelligence.
Significance of emotional intelligence for kids
Children are just as prone to intense emotion as adults and it is important to equip them with the tools to cope with these emotions. Many studies link healthy coping skills in childhood with emotional and physical well-being in adulthood, propensity for success, and better quality of life. Here is why you should pay attention to your child’s EQ.
Children with high EQ earn better grades academically. As they learn to deal with their emotions in a healthy manner, kids are less likely to turn to avoid the problem. For example, children that struggle with math homework and don’t know how to properly deal with the anxiety and stress of possible failure start procrastinating the work which leads to a vicious cycle, making their grades suffer.
Emotionally intelligent children don’t fall prey to unhealthy habits. Behavioural and substance addictions are common coping mechanisms shown by kids who have difficulty recognizing and processing emotion. They tend to indulge in habits like smoking, binge eating, etc. as a form of mitigation. But those who display emotional literacy rarely fall into these habits and tend to lead a healthy lifestyle.
It helps them develop leadership qualities. The sensitivity to other people’s emotions or empathy and the ability to accommodate and utilize them in the most effective manner make for great leadership skills. Empathy nurtures teamwork and motivates others to realize their potential.
Self-motivation works as a natural propeller. Emotionally intelligent children are aware of the self. Self-awareness makes them capable of putting their tasks in perspective and glean their self-incentivising interests upon its completion. In this way, children who show high EQ perform well in most aspects of life.
Emotional literacy prevents the urge to bully others. It helps children sympathize with other students. They become more aware of the problems faced by others which fosters consideration and compassion. Not only are they less likely to engage in bullying behaviour themselves, they also show an outward aversion to bullies. This reduces their risk of being bullied too.