How to help your teen overcome an inferiority complex 

It is common for every teen to go through feelings of inadequacy or not being good enough. Comparing themselves to those around them can be a by-product of socialising if not kept in a healthy check. A teen may feel low for not winning the science project competition or for finishing last during sports day- such occurrences are bound to take place. They can be healthy in setting up a challenge to excel in a particular field. However, a concern arises when these feelings are amplified and have a constant deprecating effect on one’s self-esteem. In such situations, it becomes hard for young adults to escape this cycle which eventually turns into a persistent inferiority complex. This is detrimental for mental health, and can lead to insecurity, withdrawal from social situations, anxiety, excessive competitiveness, low self-esteem etc. Here are some ways to help your teen overcome this complex before it gets worse.  

Discourage your teen from making comparisons 
Very often, teens fall in the trap of comparing themselves to their peers. This leads to envy and a sense of lacking. Engaging in such comparisons can blind teens from seeing and recognising their own uniqueness and individuality. Provide words of positive affirmation and avoid comparing your teen with others at any cost. Help him to appreciate others’ strengths without doubting his own.  

Provide consistent encouragement 
When teens are trapped in an inferiority complex, they tend to shut out words of praise from others. They find it hard to look beyond their perceived inadequacies and end up not realising their own potential. As a parent, it becomes extremely important to consistently encourage your teen and nurture their individuality. For this, make it a point to appreciate something she has accomplished and provide positive feedback for the same. 

Help your teen identify his strengths 
Be realistic with your teen and explain to him that it is impossible to be perfect at everything, but it is something one can always strive towards in a healthy, challenging way. Instead of focusing on his weakness, draw his attention towards his strengths instead. Support him in the pursuit of activities and endeavours which highlight his strong points. 

Encourage your teen to set challenges for herself 
Finding a purpose outside of herself can immensely help her add meaning to life. Help your teen identify some goals she would like to accomplish and develop a plan to work towards the same. Volunteering in the community, learning a new skill or hobby, etc. will help her remove the focus off herself and divert it towards something else.